To me, fitness is in the mind; the thoughts you tell yourself can affect the way you eat and workout.
I grew up when thin was in; my thick thighs and pear shape body was a nightmare! No matter how many diets or starvation periods I endured, I could not match the size of my friends – never mind celebrities. During and after college, I became very sluggish, which made begin to focus on health.
I did what many people do – go from 0 to 100. I could never keep up with goals I set in place, so I would only ever be in shape for small amounts of periods. This led me to believe I was a failure who would never be happy with my body. My spinal fusion surgeries also received most of the blame. It was easier to say my back was the issue – rather than change.
Fast-forward to now and I’m a completely different person. Everything from the progression, physical changes to inner; being more positive and self-happy. This is not a manual on me though. You may like my body or you may hate it. Really, I only want to demonstrate that you can aim to be where you want to be; the mind can alter a lot.
Here are some fitness mindset beliefs to adopt:
This is what you want to do
Stop telling yourself you can’t eat this and you’ll have to stop doing that. Reinforce that your health is a decision. Yes if you want, you can eat cheesecake everyday and live on fizzy drinks – you are choosing a better option!
You are not a failure
Sometimes you may overindulge, and that’s okay. Calling yourself a failure cuts chance of progression and halts what progression you have made. If you believe you’re failure, how are you going to work up the motivation to believe you will succeed?
You can do this
Imagine two scenarios. The first: a person comes up to you and says they GUARANTEE, that if you follow their plan, you will achieve exactly what you want. It will be hard work and sacrifice, but at the end you will 100% be happy and capable.
The second: a person comes up to you and says they are not confident, that if you follow their plan, you will achieve exactly what you want. It will be hard work and sacrifice, but at the end you might be somewhat happy and capable.
Which one is going to motivate you more? You have to dig deep inside of yourself and know that you can do it. Whatever body goal or healthy lifestyle you are after, you CAN do it. That mindset will help get you to workout when you lose interest, and when you can’t see initial progress.
Healthy is tasty
My theory is, when we are children, we are rewarded with bad food. Then we’re forced as adults to eat the healthier options. We grow up believing that healthy, cannot be tasty. The issue is, when you are trying to eat healthy, you are going to struggle if every possibility seems unappetising.
Open your mind and don’t say good food is disgusting. Granted there is some stuff out there, that no matter how natural or plant-based it is, I’d rather leave in the ground! I did research and came across pages and pages of ideas for eating the food you love, with more nutrition. Pasta for example: I eat with homemade tomato sauce which takes little time to create.
Progress is always progress
Just because you had time to let your hair down and go wild over the weekend, it doesn’t mean it’s fine to give up your diet until whatever date you set. I think everyone at some stage has gone: ‘Well, I ate so bad on Friday, I may as well continue to eat bad all weekend because it won’t make much difference now”.
Every time you put nutrients in your body, you take care of it. Every time you consume refined sugar, you affect it. Your body doesn’t cancel out food or clear itself whilst you enjoy your days off. It’s like throwing more mess into your already messy bedroom. You are only adding to the situation. When you get the craving or desire to eat better – take it. Don’t say no because it’s not Monday or the start of a new month.
To go with this new outlook, I want to share some quick tips that helped me:
- If you want to drink more water, keep it within arms reach. The same goes for fruit, nuts etc. And if you want to cut down on your chocolate intake, take that temptation away.
- Lemon, water and a hint of apple cider. This combination is supposed to help with digestion, but it also wakes me up and in a weird way, I feel cleansed afterwards.
- Be honest with yourself. If you are not a morning person, do not try to wake up at crazy times to exercise unless you have to. Write a plan that can adjust easily into your daily living and if you are struggling, take baby steps.
- The little things add up. With the weather now warmer, it’s the perfect time to do more walking. I like to stretch while watching T.V.
I found the point about food rewards interesting. I agree that we have this mindset that we have to reward ourselves with sugary foods because that is what we grew up with. There are many healthy foods that I love eating, but I would never even consider using them as a reward. Probably also because I eat them regularly. Its an interesting point to ponder
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I agree, I never consider healthy food a reward, even though in theory, it kind of is for our bodies.
I really loved this article! I’m trying to get on the healthy lifestyle train which is sometimes really difficult but this article is really awesome! I also never thought about how being rewarded with bad food when we’re younger affects you so that’s something cool to think about 🙂 !!
Thank you so much for taking the time to read! It’s still a process for me. I learnt to just take baby steps though. I’m more relaxed now. And yeah, I remember even in school being rewarded with biscuits. No one ever really says, wow this healthy food is delicious, I’m going to treat you. Even though healthy food can be nice!
Thank you! I’m glad you like the tips 🙂
Such a great story! Thank you for sharing your struggles and those tips on changing the mindset. Changing one’s way of thinking is so powerful. Looking forward to reading more 🙂
Thank you so much for taking the time to read! Changing my mindset has been (kind of cheesy) but life changing. Likewise I will look forward to reading more of your posts 🙂
Very motivating✨ I especially loved the bedroom mess analogy, that’s a good way to look at it. Great tips also, I’ve been hearing a lot about lemon and water so I’ll be sure to try it. The apple cider with it sounds tasty too
Thank you! I love lemon and water and with the apple cider, be sure to add only 1 tbsp or 2 because it’s very strong!