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  1. lauzieslifestyle says

    Haha great minds think alike as they say. 🙂
    I will have to read your article. I hate the idea of someone using me purely for their own gain, so I feel really happy with myself that I did not go along with it.

  2. Coyote from Orion says

    Only bullies and predators don’t want women thinking for themselves or expressing themselves. An intelligent and developed mind is attractive in either sex. A shame some people always serve their own desires and don’t listen with the heart. Lack of brains, heart, and experience… the kind of people who get massive material wealth while everyone else takes risks fighting for values and principles (usually as a result of their ‘marketing’). Only have to look at what happened from the 1940’s into 50’s.
    The 60’s was so important yet unfinished because women’s business got busy. Nasty men are always threatened by smart women and alcohol and other compounds of Neptune were the tool the tool taught at the most prestigious boy’s schools. I was smashed every weekend after sport on Saturdays and the voyeuristic culture made me drop out to be a bum as I felt for any girl I was with was then targeted by several boarders always a few weeks later. I felt sick and I felt it was unsafe for women to be with me because of the predatory natures of some of the nation’s elite. Even now they could probably turn a post like this to suit them if they even cared. Entitlement does breed weakness and bad health though in the long run.

  3. Kerry LifeandLoves says

    This was a great post to read. I think women especially are not great at saying no. In fact, for a lot of us we offer to do things even when not asked. Its like there is an expectation to be accomodating and helpful, no matter how busy we are. I am a mum, and I learnt early on that if I dont want spoilt, bratty kids, then I have to tell them no. i wasnt quite so quick at learning in friendships, but Im getting there!

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      Women just seem to be linked to having attitudes or being the dreaded b word, if they decide to go against something or say no. The worst is when you go out of your way for someone, and then the same is not precipitated.
      Glad you are getting there. 🙂

  4. Lindsey says

    So true! Why is NO so hard to say? I’m constantly learning to use the word and not feel guilty. This was a great post. I think we all need to be reminded no is an okay thing to say.

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      I think because it is seen as a ‘bad’ word. We are suppose to say yes and be friendly, but everything has limits.
      When the woman tried to get me to advertise her products, I felt so guilty for not wanting too, even though I knew that I had not spoken to her in years and held no responsibility. I think we almost need to rewire our brains and understand that we are as important as the person asking and we should not have to do something that we don’t want too.

  5. Stormy Dormy says

    Ugh, I struggle to say no. I’m far too nice for my own good! I have my limits – if I’m knackered as hell then I’ll walk away from social events etc at the end of the day. Still need to gain some confidence and say no more often though!

  6. niccimcshane says

    This is something in the past I struggled to do. I always said yes to everything even knowing I wasn’t going to do it. Or I would come up with a million excuses and explanations as to why I couldn’t instead of just saying no, knowing I didn’t actually have to justify myself to anyone if I didn’t want to do it. I’m much more comfortable now in just saying no but it took me a long time to do xxxx

  7. lauzieslifestyle says

    I do believe that people of the opposite sex can be just friends with no hidden intentions. When I was younger, I had a hard time in saying no. Like when people asked me for my number. But now I can be abrupt, only because I do not want to lead anyone on.

  8. lauzieslifestyle says

    Thank you! I definitely agree about it being pushed on girls to be accommodating. Women who tend to have opinions, can easily be stereotyped.
    But like you say, we should not be afraid of using the word.

  9. lauzieslifestyle says

    It is amazing how a person can appear out of nowhere and then ask for a huge favour. I think the older people get, the more they understand about putting their needs first. As a teenager, I never even thought about anything like this!

  10. SimpleSerenity says

    When I was younger I used to struggle so much with saying no or don’t agree with people around me. When I fully grow up I understood that it is ok to say no, because you have to stay true to your self and not to try to please everyone, that can be really damaging. xx

    • lauzieslifestyle says

      It comes across fake as well, when people just go along with everything. I find I can easily say no when it comes to discussing opinions or sharing my beliefs, but I struggle when people ask favours. It is something that I am still working on. xx

  11. Infinite Living says

    I agree with you completely on all that you say. I love your writing style- beautiful, straightforward and from the heart. I too prefer people being upfront about what they wish from me. I do not enjoy hidden agendas in interactions. I have learned to say what I mean, sometimes a clear NO. I think people have learned by now that I am of no ‘use’ LOL! So I can be involved in something that I care about and that could be self-care.

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