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  1. Hannah R. says

    Well said! Especially about the phone thing. I think about when I first started dating my now husband, and he commented that I would keep my phone right on the table next to my plate whenever we went out. “You’ll turn that phone off for a movie, but what about a date?”
    It really got me thinking and from then on I will put my phone on silent and keep it in my purse when we are out together. My time is focused on him, not responding to a snapchat.
    Great post!!!

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you Hannah! I think that’s the best way to be. When you are out at dinner or enjoying each others company, it can be a huge distraction having a device on hand. And I think because we use them so much, we need that excuse for when to put them away.

  2. Sophie Joan says

    Amazing post. So many people think that the things they want will just get handed to them and that’s not how it works. You have to work hard in order to get what you want.

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you Sophie!! I used to work with this girl whose family is incredibly wealthy. And she literally complained for 10 mins because her friends dad wouldn’t give her this writing job as she had no experience.
      You appreciate it so much more when you earn it right. 🙂

  3. thatfeelinginside says

    Wow, a really powerful post. May have to watch that TedTalk. Think as a generation were really into the whole ‘has to happen now or never’, so many people get discouraged when what they want doesn’t just get handed to them/happen the first time. Really enjoyed reading this post x

    • LauraJ says

      It wasn’t a Ted Talk the one I watched. I put the link at the beginning but I’ll make it more clear. He has quite a few talks on YouTube and I love all of them.
      I agree, there is this pressure to be rich and successful young. I think seeing social-media stars and constantly hearing about young people’s success has added to this idea of everything happening at once. Thank you for reading! x

  4. whatismaria says

    I’m going to check out that Ted talk for sure because this is such an interesting topic. For me, Instagram really symbolises instant gratification – when the likes don’t start pouring in as soon as we post a picture, we are filled with resentment and self-doubt, when many factors go into how well a given image performs, whether they are out of our control or not. Also, I think it’s so important to teach children the value of hard work and the process of working towards something in itself because while early on in life it may be easy to achieve instant results and rewards, this drastically changes when you get older and definitely comes as a shock to many people. Interesting and insightful post as always, plus you look gorgeous in the photos xox

    • LauraJ says

      Even with blogging. I admit at times if I haven’t received as many views and stuff, I’ll start worrying what am I doing wrong?
      Instagram takes you away from reality. I like the app itself, but it’s the over consumption that causes issues.
      I completely agree. It’s crucial to teach children that hard work is important. And learning to go down your own path and not to copy or imitate others.
      Thank you girl and I appreciate you reading. xxx

  5. lifeofangela says

    I’ve seen that Ted talk in my recommended, and now I’m really interested in reading it. Technology has made us want more instant gratification, everything should be available to us now, or else really soon. I still find it worrying when I hear about parents doing the work for the kids, it’s not helping them at all in the long run. I like to think that I have a lot of patience, at least in the things that matter. I am definitely guilty of hiding behind my phone when things get awkward though. I’m trying to get better at it and not grab my phone, but then I just end up staring into space haha 🙂

    • LauraJ says

      Haha it’s like when I’m on a train, all I want to do is stare at my phone. Or if I’m out at dinner and someone goes to the toilet, I get my phone out because I can’t handle just sitting and waiting. Which sounds terrible!
      I find it’s pushy parents who do everything. The mums actually compete with each other. And technology makes us pretty lazy at times, so I try to limit what technology I use.
      Thank you for reading and definitely check out his talks. There’s quite a few on YouTube and they are the best I’ve heard – informative, funny and motivational without being preachy.

  6. Ivefoundwaldo says

    I always think of the idea of instant gratification. It worries me. All the things you mention affects me too! (I didn’t even know you had a Facebook page, but I liked it!). The one the that worries me more, is the idea of raising my own kids in the future. In a world where you can get anything you want almost instantly, it scares me of ruining a human being. In a world where you can gain insecurities from apps at the palm of your hand, I get anxious just thinking about it. We were born into a time of instant gratification. Imagine people who were born with it? We had a good 10 years without smart phones, and these new kids growing up already have all this knowledge and technology at the palm of their hands. If people think millennials are bad, I’m afraid to think how the next few generations are going to grow. (sorry for rambling!) Great post Laura xxx

    Melina |

    • LauraJ says

      I can’t believe you didn’t know I have a Facebook page!!! Lol I don’t really advertise it. I kind of created and then thought….let’s log out and go on twitter.
      I’m so thankful that I had a childhood without all this. My little sister who is 10, said to me: ‘imagine if we didn’t have mobile phones’. She couldn’t believe that they are quite a new invention (in the grand scheme of things).
      The problem with instant gratification as well, is everyone believing their own hype. People get carried away with attention and it can consume them. I’ve seen some people with Instagram captions describing how hot they are. xxx

      • Ivefoundwaldo says

        I was the same way when I created mine, I don’t really use it much, aha! but it’s there if I ever actually decide to use it.
        It’s crazy to believe it’s only been about 10 years or so since the smart phone came out!

        • LauraJ says

          I will follow you now. I remember getting my first Nokia and it was cool that it actually had colour.
          Then I had a motorola and I’d constantly want to flip it with attitude. And the first cameras – they were so awful but just the idea of saving images.
          I wouldn’t do anything with them. I’d just occasionally scroll the albums. I’m gutted that I’ve lost quite a few of them due to my phone breaking. xxx

  7. Paolo says

    I watched this talk recently as well and found it interesting. It’s interesting to see how each generation is affected by the environment they grow up in. Technology sure has increased exposure to instant gratification but I’m curious to see how future generations will respond. I personally love being able to buy things online and have them arrive same day, bringing a series, and of course having pizza delivered hot and fresh As you said though expecting these in love, life, career etc. Can be detrimental to development. Thanks for the insights Laura!

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you Paolo! I’ve watched a few of his talks now and I just find them so fascinating. It is really interesting to see and I’m glad that I grew up in the 90’s when social-media didn’t exist.
      Even though I like it now.

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