It felt like mind propaganda – over-ecstatic Americans profusely proclaiming that one law has granted them millions in the bank, their dream home, and a holiday in every country. Does the law of attraction hold any truth, or is it a bogus claim that helped sell a million books? Half-way through The Secret documentary, my mind became bored listening to voices preach how the universe has granted their wishes. The law of attraction – the big secret, is based on a belief that you attract what you think and see.
You can become what you think about most. If you wake up in a bad mood and go about your day telling yourself that you have the worse luck – prepare for more.
But, if you wake up happy and look at your day with optimism – happiness will keep happening.
It’s about turning negative thoughts into positive. Don’t dwell on what you don’t want, and start planning towards what you do.
The Secret book suggests you follow three steps: ask, believe, receive; along with physical tasks like writing a grateful list, creating a mood board, and closing your eyes every night and visualising.
A quick internet search proved my scepticism. Psychology Today, published a thorough argument explaining why the law of attraction just isn’t true. The writer – Neil Farber, makes mention of how his first articles on the subject received heavy criticism and backlash. Is this belief equal to religion – you either believe in it, or you don’t?
Despite all my blasé feelings and eagerness to find evidence against the fanatical Secret speakers, I do conceive the meaning as true. It’s hard for people in the Western world dictated by science, to prove accountable anything not seen numerously through sight. Which is probably why mental health has suffered such a declining growth compared to physical.
Why we shouldn’t ignore the law of attraction
Our thoughts are extraordinarily powerful – they guide us in life and stay tuned to who we are from morning to-night. I don’t need to have a psychology degree to understand that. It’s a natural process to follow what we think.
When I loathed myself and battled severe self-hatred, of course I didn’t want to put on a bikini, take a photo, or stand up and give a presentation. My thoughts confirmed I was ugly and embarrassing.
It’s taken years to change my emotions and implement what I now know as self-love. From my experience, I recognise how strongly a person can act based on thoughts. This is an example I said to my friend the other day: If I asked you to run a mile with me tomorrow, you would probably say no. If I asked you to run from one side of a field to the other, you would probably say yes.
Not because the field is faster or easier – the field is a reachable goal. If you don’t exercise, you are likely to opt for walking instead of running, and if you are nowhere near a million pounds, you aim for a closer reach.
We strive for dreams, yet we daily aim for possibilities we deem probable. So, taking law of attraction into account, if we start expressing our desires and talking about them as though they are a reality, we have a higher chance of actually taking measures to achieve them.
If you told me a machine had a 100% guarantee to give me abs after a month of using (completely proven), I would use the machine. I would stick with it as I would know that my result are definite.
However, if you told me a machine had a 40% guarantee of giving me abs after a month or two, I would lose focus. Why? I know all the hard work might not pay off.
That’s the gamble we take. If you apply the law of attraction and fully remain confident that you will get what you want, the universe might not work in your favour, but you will view that goal with another set of eyes, and you will put an extra effort in.
My theory – there are two types of people. Those who dream, and those who turn dreams to realistic life plans. The law of attraction can have you aiming for the second type. Yes, I’m not a psychologist or expert!
Do you believe in the law of attraction and have you read or watched The Secret?