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    • LauraJ says

      Thank you!! It’s probably a post I’ll go back to when I have days when I feel insecure 🙂 x

  1. Megala says

    There are times that I feel super confident and also the times I feel low in self esteem, but both the times I keep telling myself “nothing is real or permanent”. 🙂

  2. K.M. Sutton says

    Another amazing post! I couldn’t agree more with you! We all have demons, but it is how we handle those and let them project outward that matters. <3

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you girl! Exactly! It’s not always about the feelings, but rather the reaction. I haven’t thought it like that before. x

  3. Beyoutiful says

    Nice post girl! I always felt insecure and still do but over time I’ve learned to focus and love myself which def made me more confidence 🙂

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you! I think I’m the same. I’ve always felt insecure, but I do get more confident and content days now. So the balance has started to shift. x

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you Lauryn! It really is! When I get insecure now, I try to analyse what triggered it and how I can try to prevent it from happening again.

  4. thatfeelinginside says

    Really enjoyed this post! I definitely find where I have times i’m feeling really happy and confident and then all of a sudden something brings me back down. Definitely agree with what you said about most of us being extroverts and inteoverts xxx

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you! I am definitely both. I think how extroverted I am, depends on who I’m with. If I feel I can’t click with people, I naturally go quiet and keep to myself. Thank you for reading. xxx

  5. Rebecca says

    I really think this is normal- I would honestly say that I can relate to everything you’ve just written here! I agree that there’s pressure in society to be confident and I think that plays a part in pushing us but also making us feel insecure when we aren’t 100% confident… Great post!

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you Rebecca!! Society kind of pushes the idea that confidence is outspoken and loud, but the older I get, the more I realise it doesn’t have much to do with that. I use to feel insecure because I’m quite quiet.

      • Rebecca says

        Exactly, I think (and well, I hope) that I’m coming to realise that too! It makes me sad that so many people have felt and still feel insecure about not being the loudest person when in fact, there’s more to it than that.

  6. Infinite Living says

    Confidence was something I had to greatly build overtime. I discovered that it was more about knowing myself better and how much I defined myself in relation to other’s views vs. developing my self-awareness and self-assuredness. I sway a lot less now that I have figured out that everything always shows me what needs to be worked on or relaxed within myself. It used to be different and I totally remember what the feeling of insecurity was like. I wish to share with you this link for a post that I had done on the same topic.

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you for your lovely comment. I love that you mentioned knowing yourself and how you defined yourself in relation to other views.
      I feel like I’ve been boxed in for most of my life, and I always struggled with people telling me how I am and what I’m capable of. So a big thing I’ve had to overcome (and still trying to overcome), is realising how to ignore other people’s thoughts and focus on my own.
      I look forward to reading your post. Thank you for sending the link! 🙂

  7. crystalsandcurls says

    honestly YES YES YES! I absolutely love this; I would consider myself to be a really confident person, but I’m still really insecure at times. Like you said, I honestly think that’s pretty normal – confidence is something we build on and are always improving xx

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you!! Yes – I think confidence is what you build on and ideally it gets better with age. xx

  8. whatismaria says

    Such a well-written and interesting article as always – I can say that you definitely have a lot to be confident about! The point you are making here is so important. It’s impossible to get rid of insecurities completely, and even the people who seem to confident to us are almost certainly struggling with their own doubts. I guess the best thing to do is work on improving ourselves, but embrace the things we can’t, and shouldn’t have to change 🙂 xx

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you Maria!! With social media and self-love, there is this new pressure to be completely perfect. And it’s just not realistic. So I do believe as well that confidence is about understanding what you can and can’t change, and then being content with that. xx

  9. thelonelyauthorblog says

    Interesting post. I think all of us are broken (and insecure) in one way or another. How we manage our insecurities may be the biggest difference between people. Curious about the app. Does it help in any way?

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you! I like the app. It’s good at getting me to constantly evaluate my life and stay on track each day, but my only critique, is that it gives you generic tasks.
      For example, if your goal was to have a good morning routine, it would set you a list of tasks like stretching, eating breakfast, doing a workout etc. But some of the goals are weird. Like on eating healthy, it says you have to eat a salad everyday. When some days I don’t want to.