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  1. Beyoutiful says

    Cute post girl and yes, def should always do some research before the first date! Gonna go back through your post before I go on my first date haha 🙂

  2. thatfeelinginside says

    If I was single now I would definitely do some pre-date stalking. Usually when I’m going for an interview or before meeting anyone for the first time I do a little cheeky stalk on social media. It’s pretty bad but I really can’t help myself having a little nose. Think can put you to ease knowing a bit more about someone before you meet them!xx

    • LauraJ says

      I think it’s such a normal thing to do. I definitely try to suss out what the person looks like who is interviewing me lol. I don’t know why. It’s like I think I can win them over if I know what they look like prior! xx

        • LauraJ says

          Sometimes I look to see if the person looks nice or evil haha. And also, you can read on LinkedIn what their accomplishments are, so then you can try and match it. Likes yes, I also care deeply about being organised lol. xx

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you Serene! It amazes me that some people will pretend their single on a dating site, but then you go on their social-media and it’s obvious they are not. So research is really worthwhile – within reason! 🙂 xx

  3. Jyo says

    Lovely post Laura…you put a smile on my face ….coming to article, I don’t do the social media thing so just a few emails back and forth, a phone call or two, then meet, if I don’t like you in person, then I am not going to spend any extra time or effort on you….moving on… Lol

    • LauraJ says

      That’s how it should be! Sometimes people go on dates and they know deep down that there’s no chemistry or real connection, but they try to make it work/ I’m like you – move on – no extra effort. x

  4. hoiyinli says

    It’s funny you bring this topic up because me and my colleagues were literally talking about this very topic a few weeks ago! One of the girls admitted openly that she stalks and to be honest, at some point I did as well. Not even on potential lovers but in general. “I wonder what they’re up to now?” I am on social media much less now but I think a quick social media search is good for as what you said, protection. There is nothing more naff than when you go and meet someone and there were a lot of red flags to begin with. (I have watched many an episode of Catfish haha).

    • LauraJ says

      I use to look up people I use to know, out of curiosity, but now I don’t because it doesn’t really faze me anymore what anyone else is up to. But yes catfish – a prime example of why research is good for protection!
      I actually met up with a guy last year from Instagram and he was nothing as I imagined. So sometimes social-media fails haha!

  5. Jeas Wellness says

    I just kept nodding when reading this. Isn’t it crazy that we can’t really trust people these days? There are just too many weird ones pretending to be someone they’re not… Thank goodness there are good people out there too!

    • LauraJ says

      I think modern society is made to encourage people to lie. It’s like, here’s your editing tools, here’s your password protected phone and computer. Why don’t you set up a few accounts and use one to cheat?
      On another note, I’ve always found it weird people who create fan accounts and then spend all day defending a celebrity and going on rants. I always wonder – who are these people?!

  6. K.M. Sutton says

    You articulated the pros and cons extremely well m’dear. I will scroll through pictures but I typically don’t stalk before the first date. I want to be surprised. I want to learn about them and not just what their social media portrays. <3

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you! I have to do a little stalking, but I agree that it’s nice to learn about them in person. If you know too much, it can ruin the romance. x

  7. vividual says

    What a lovely post! I enjoy reading your content because it always makes me feel like a deep girls’ conversation. I used to stalk people before a first date but not excessively and if I couldn’t find them on social media that wasn’t a reason to cancel the date. The only thing I always cared about was whether they had at least three pictures on any platform or sent to me because I didn’t want to end up in a super bad situation with a pedophile or something.
    Sometimes it just helps to wait for the first date and see how that goes. It says a lot more about a person than their social media xx

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you! That’s what I want with my posts. Hopefully to create deep conversation or thought.
      Yes it’s nice to see images. I don’t like guys obsessed with social-media, but it is nice to see a few images to back-up that they are genuine. Thank you for your comment! xx

  8. Melina Elisa says

    This post was quite entertaining to read. I love doing a lil bit of cyber stalking before meeting someone, especially if I don’t know much about them. The guy I’m currently talking to actually doesn’t have any social media other than snapchat which is quite refreshing, because for whatever reason I quite like a boy who isn’t so in social media? Great post Laura 🙂 xx

    Melina |

    • LauraJ says

      Yeah I don’t like guys who are really into social-media. Even though I use so much of it myself. But if they just have a LinkedIn profile or just something that further backs up their dating profile.
      Thank you for reading girl xx

  9. crystalsandcurls says

    I probably should do more pre-date research but I really enjoy going into dates completely blind and getting to know the person when I’m there. I have to admit, I have a tendency to judge guys’ social medias so it’s probably not a great idea for me to see them beforehand LOL!xx

    • LauraJ says

      Lol I understand! Social-media can really change your opinion on someone and it is nice going into dates blind, but I guess I over-worry as I’ve heard too many bad stories. xx