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  1. Paolo B. says

    That all too familiar feeling of not being good enough. I think a lot of us can relate to that. I think I felt it more in the early to mid 20s though. Maybe because it’s a point in life where usually trying to establish self and identity. Never feeling like we can reach a mountain top is a terrible feeling. I know I’ve been there. In the end there really isn’t a top as you mentioned continual growth is the process. Being able to appreciate and love what you do along the way is the hard part.

    Finding balance in it all is an art in itself. Between growth, development, satisfaction etc. It’s ok to feel the highs and lows but always have to remember yes, you are good enough, always.

    • LauraJ says

      In my early twenties, I was too busy trying to fit in and figure myself out. Well, I thought I was discovering myself but really I was too focused on adapting.

      Finding a balance really is an art and I don’t think you can ever really get it 100%. A lot of it is down to mentality. How stressed you are and how much joy you get out of life. Thanks for reading 🙂

  2. thelonelyauthorblog says

    Not being good enough, or at least not being good enough to our own self imposed standards is a serious problem that many of us face. Raised by a tyrant father, I had to be perfect as a child to avoid his anger. Now, as an adult, I find myself
    still clinging to this habit of seeking the impossible – perfection.

    Very difficult habit to break. I assure you, in my eyes, you appear very close to perfect – in your writing and beauty.
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this subject. It is good to be reminded we are not alone in these feelings.

    • LauraJ says

      You are far too kind Andrew! I’m humbled a perfectionist considers me close to perfect. I love my mum and wouldn’t consider her a tyrant in any form, but is a perfectionist herself and it was tough growing up and listening to her criticism.

      It is really difficult to break. I try to think of all the ‘inperfect’ things I like in others, to help me see them in myself. You’re very talented and from what I can tell, kind and intelligent. I hope you manage to break the habit. Thank you so much for sharing. I always like reading your thoughts! 🙂

  3. vividual says

    I know this feeling very well Laura. I think it’s the times that we start counting the bad things in life and start to wonder if we deserve to be happy or if we’re just not good enough. That’s what I tell myself very often. But what I found in the past few weeks, as I found a new job and my future plans are slowly starting to happen, that there will be things again in life that I deserved. I told myself that this was my personal gift for myself and everything I had to go through before was part of this process in order to find my own happiness. I’m not saying I’m 100% where I want to be. I will probably never be but I know that everyone will find things in life that they will see as a gift. You’re a very talented girl and I think you’re doing a great job here! Don’t feel bad about yourself. There’s no reason to xx

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you lovely! Your words have made my Monday 10x better. I think I focus too much on exterior. I’m judging myself by everything around me. But my issues are more within. Because while happiness is helped by having certain stuff, possessions or achievements don’t guarentee it.
      I’m glad things are starting to happen for you and I hope it continues, well, I’m sure it will!! There’s no reason to feel you won’t find what you’re after. xxx

  4. Melina Elisa says

    Having the feeling of being unwanted or not good enough is such a toxic thought pattern, and yet, I find myself relating to every word you said. Those thoughts pass my mind more times than I’m willing to admit. Thank you for mentioning me love, I definitely did not expect it, but it brought such a smile to my face. Yes! Keep writing and being exceptional! xxx

    Melina |

    • LauraJ says

      You really inspired this post! I ended up going through my archives and reading some of the personal stuff, and it gave me huge inspiration. It’s weird seeing how my blog has evolved from when it first began.

      I think the thoughts are sadly common for a lot of people. It’s so easy to criticise yourself. I recently wrote down my strengths and weaknesses, and noticed that I easily wrote so many bad points and struggled to come up with good. It’s such a bad habit to have! xxx