Pancakes; my favourite childhood food. When I think what to eat for pleasure, I visualise my grandmother plating a huge stack with lemon and sugar. Classic flavourings for an offering beloved enough to receive a yearly celebration. It seems, the idea of eating for enjoyment has grown distasteful.
Our wellness obsession isn’t working
I restrict animal produce, I try to avoid processed food and ban fizzy drinks bubbling near my mouth. Only special occasions call for coke – usually with vodka. My stringent diet resembles me a health freak who visits Whole Foods like a savvy shopper hauling herself to Primark. Yet, never have I felt so much choice and freedom.
Last weekend, I devoured a vegan Oreo cake with dark chocolate. I endlessly sliced a vegan chocolate cake the following day too, and made banana bread to not waste the brown skins ageing in my fruit bowl. I happily munched and didn’t feel guilt. How awful, to eat “bad” food and not receive a good feeling. That’s like eating salad with no nutritional benefit.
I knew, once my cake intake vanished, I’d go back to nourishing my body in bowlfuls of oats, veg and spice ridden stir fry’s. Most of us contemplate diets and try to lose weight by saying no to sugar and carbs. The Western world has decades of experience in pushing wellness. Failingly, as new research reported by the Daily Mail reveals in Britain alone, “Nearly one in six deaths is now linked to unhealthy eating”
Read: Our Dangerous Wellness Obsession
Eat for pleasure – quality not quantity
Most of us don’t know when to stop. It’s all good advising small portions and miniature bites, but how many of us have Hepburn’s ability to consume just a mere square of chocolate? In my years of dieting and body struggle, I’ve realised our associations towards food triggers what we eat.
It’s common to use food as a rewards strategy. Desserts and chocolate mesmerised as treats; vegetables dryly plated because they’re healthy. My parents embraced this notion. Once my carrots chomped down my gut, serenaded in mash potato, I’d rush to the cupboard and rip open my Galaxy block. What if we stopped focusing on good and bad, and viewed everything we ate as pleasurable?
Writing for Verily, Abigail Murrish shared her experience eating like a French woman. On the piece, food critic Michael Pollan said “eat with pleasure because eating with anxiety leads to poor digestion and bingeing.” Explaining how the French follow the rules of moderation – not overeating, Pollan also remarked that there’s no “French paradox”, “only an American paradox” of “unhealthy people” fixated on health.
Mixing pleasure and nutrition
I think there’s huge issues linked to how we promote healthy food. It’s discussed purely on a goodness value. Rarely do you read – “I’ve savoured every mouthful of my broccoli sautéed to perfection”. Instead of guilt and feeling as though we must justify temptation, why not celebrate and explore ideas to make our entire diet agreeable?
French people love cheese and wine, and onion soup and delicious vegetable stews. Indian food is recognised for adding flavour to dishes with spices, and Spanish olives slowly roasted in an oven with olive oil summarise a wonderfully healthy and tasty snack. If we emphasise trying to cook more from scratch, and learning the best techniques to enhance dishes, perhaps we can eat with pleasure again.
For years I’ve felt bounded; trapped by thin desire and stomach grumbles. Whenever I’d eat pizza or say yes to crisps on the weekend, I’d squeezed my stomach and picture the fat rising. Looking in the mirror at disgust for my weak self. How do others keep their abs on show, why can’t I?
Loving yourself enough to eat for pleasure
I do care about health. It’s important I wake up happy and go to sleep knowing my body has received adequate fuel. But I also know that bread at a restaurant takes me back to family holidays in Greece, where fresh bread was always served. Cocktails reminisce sunshine dates and summer evenings, and sugary pancakes make me remember my grandma.
Plus, they are delicious! I don’t want to spend my life hating myself whenever “treats” stand before me. I try to do whatever I can to make whatever I eat appetising. Perhaps 6 six different spices layer veg; a splash of red wine drizzles stews. If we look at food as a whole and health as a whole, wouldn’t we feel happier and actually live healthier – mentally and physically?
How often do you eat for pleasure? Do you feel guilty are a cheesecake, or do you simply indulge?
There definitely is a psychological aspect to eating and food. Probably ingrained to us since child good. Treating foods as treats and rewards etc. For myself I do eat for pleasure, I love to eat. I find myself feeling the best though when I eat in moderation not cutting anything out but enjoying the everyday food and the special foods. I feel the worst when I binge after eating “clean” or when I do mindless eating ie. when watching tv. Knowing when to stop is huge, and feel so much better after. Thanks for the read Laura!
Thank you for reading Paolo. I always feel bad after binging or eating loads of bad food in a couple of hours. I agree it’s important to know your limits and not push past them.
I like your healthy mindset regarding this!!
I try to have something extra delicious only once a week, any more and it’s just not good for me, and less will just give me horrible cravings. So I decided it was the best thing for me. But extra delicious can be anything from a nice bit of chocolate cake, or a really nice, creamy bowl of pasta 🙂
This week it will be birthday cake while celebrating my mum tomorrow 🙂
I think that’s the main thing – realising your limits and not being afraid to reach them. Like I know if I spent a day eating loads of cakes and biscuits, pizza etc, I’ll feel awful and sluggish. But a little cake here and some cookies later on etc are fine. And birthdays/occasions are not everyday so why not indulge? 🙂
My thoughts exactly 🙂
I agree with you that conscious choice of wholesome food and then healthy positive thoughts about it make all the difference. Because I appreciate a good feeling after eating and have sensitized myself to feeling overstuffed for example, I am able to indulge at times in moderation without eating in excess.
I’m glad you mentioned about being overstuffed because that’s something I use to deal with. I use to continually eat until I felt really full. But now I feel much better knowing when to stop. And that does allow for more indulgence without feeling guilt. Thank you for reading 🙂