French novelist George Sand once wrote, “There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved”. Who sensualises romance better than the country where Paris resides? Relaxed buns, bad habits like smoking, coffee and red wine associated with healthy women; all cliché and expected. You may not consider yourself a romantic person, but you’ve admired French It girl style from Jeanne Damas and Taylor LaShae.
Why it’s great to live as a romantic person
Publication Goalcast reported on a study last year suggesting a “healthy dose of romanticism” can benefit intimate relationships. The article suggests hopeless romantics may experience a more enriching love life, due to their dreamy whims encouraging them to be proactive. On Tuesday, Bustle posted a piece on the 4 zodiac signs likely to house hopeless romantics. Before reading, I knew my star sign Leo would make the list.
Reasoned as the most romantic of all. In contradiction to my independent, aspirational self, I have a traditional side of me wanting to wear flowy dresses in the kitchen, cooking lavish meals for my partner. Not to say I wouldn’t expect the same back – minus the dress. Though a romantic person is far more than a lover of love. As Odyssey states, romantics “express emotion and imagination”; a heightened sense of nature and wilfulness to put their heart in everything.
Passion in their food, relationships and career. Optimists who as Odyssey suggest, represent bravery, imagination and a desire to fight for what they care about. To truly love, you have to tear down vulnerable fear. As a teenager, when I made the mistake of not confessing my emotions, I swore to myself to never hide from love again. Doesn’t that sound like a corny line I stole from a chic flick? It’s cost me extra pain and heartache, but tears stem wisdom and life.
Adding romance while single
A romantic person tends to think creatively and wish optimistically. Dreamer Carrie Bradshaw receives negative press today – Elle and Vogue both agree she’s annoying, while cynical Miranda has captured a new fan base. Perhaps we stereotype romanticism – adoring love doesn’t immediately connect you to foolish, unrealistic notions. As though romantics must scribble hearts on paper in-between searching for Mr. Right and fantasising.
I don’t see what’s wrong with adding depth and vision to everyday life. Carrie simply became too hooked on a guy who captured a can’t have view of heterosexual male perfection. She met a charming, wealthy, intelligent man who personified elite ideals. He wasn’t an everyday guy you’d casually meet at your local coffee shop. If we remove Hollywood and media presumptions of a romantic person, we can see clearer how-to spring romance to our lives.
Romanticism emphasises nature, emotion, imagination and celebrates individualism. Simple touches such as buying flowers, lighting a candle in an evening bath and writing sweet messages to friends, associate you to the movement. To note on the contrary, a romantic person doesn’t necessarily mean feminine. Anyone can express their thoughts without wearing pink and buying lattes with whipped cream shaped hearts. I believe it’s connected to sexuality and embracing our softer and more exposed side.
In the beginning of this year, I asked why Society Portrays Feminine Women as Unsexy. I’m purposely trying to dress more feminine; silky tops, pink hues and polka dot pieces. I cannot articulate names of actresses and stars who adopt this type of look. Yet social media has paved the way. Particularly as mentioned, French influencer Jeanne Damas.
Her Instagram exhibits flowery prints, delicate buttons and soft materials beautifully paired with red lips and simplistic hair. In my eyes the definition of sophisticated chic. Possibly female derived – there’s something sexy about a woman dressed sweetly, enjoying life and surrounded by vintage buildings and fields of green. The opposite picture of elegance next to a glass of wine or tobacco – not as a lifestyle habit but a moment of bad behaviour to question the overall innocent aesthetic.
I’m searching for accessories, low-heeled shoes wearable in the day and almost lingerie tops. Since spending a day in Barcelona wearing a flowy pink dress, I’ve addictively scoured Pinterest for similar fashion. I went tomboy in my teenage years. Only recently have I bought skirts and shied away from everything black. I grew up assuming sexy meant plenty of skin on show. Now it’s about how I choose to display skin – how comfortable I feel. As a romantic person, I love embodying similar dressing and way of life.
Applying the rules all over
I attempt to spritz romance on everything. Maple syrup will always drizzle elegantly on my pancakes; classic instrumental plays as I write and yes, I hopelessly wonder if another person harbouring a sweet spot, sits currently and waits to come across a person like me. I tell myself that’s okay because I haven’t gone full on Hallmark movie imagining.
It adds colour to life routine and keeps me optimistic. Which I feel intertwines the great elements of childhood to my present. Are you a romantic person and if so, what romantic things do you do daily/weekly/monthly?