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  1. K.M. Sutton says

    Great post and tips! I agree a date shouldn’t be an interviewer should you be an open book. I don’t want to know how many kids you want or how much is in your 401.K, or just be inundated with information like I am studying for an economics quiz. I also don’t want to be told, “Oh I know, I saw that on Instagram or Facebook.” I want to talk and interact. It is an art that seems to have been lost. Thanks for sharing this. <3

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you! One date I went on, mentioned my Instagram account to me on the first date, and I thought that was really strange. Mentioning kids is also a no-no in the early stages. x

  2. thelonelyauthorblog says

    I have so many things to say about this one LauraJ.
    Your first point is a bullseye. I tink the art of conversation has been lost on so many. Technology has taught people to ask more questions during introductions. Thus, people carry this habit into everyday conversations. Introductions should be anything, but a job interview. The goal should be
    “I want to know you better, I want you to know me better.”

    I am a big believer in telling little stories. Perhaps, it is my writing ways, but a story tells a lot about charcter. My own, and the character who I tell the story too. How did she react? What were her thoughts? What kind of sense of humor she has. Stories make for good ice breakers.

    I avoid talking about work as much as I can. My word doesn’t define me. My hopes and dreams do.

    Great post.

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you so much Andrew. I’m glad you are in agreement with me. I understand questions can be really helpful if you’re stuck on conversation, but too many direct questions just feels daunting.

      Stories can say a lot more about your character and whether you’ll connect with someone in the long run. I would struggle to like myself if they didn’t share the same humour as me.

  3. crystalsandcurls says

    Great post as always! First dates are always so freaking awkward because you’re like half on your best behaviour but also trying to be yourself to see if you’re ACTUALLY compatible… xx

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you! It’s really confusing trying to figure out how compatible you are with someone on the first date. I’m always a more nervous, interesting version of myself xx

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