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  1. thelonelyauthorblog says

    Well, I have been gone for a few month and I return to find you are not shying away from the difficult subjects.

    LauraJ, I always found foreplay to be the key. It is important from breaking ice for a new couple, it is important for building tension that leads to clmax.
    With girlfriends who were insecure, I found the cuddling and foreplay makes them feel better about themselves, helping them to feel a little less body conscious.

    How are you?

    • LauraJ says

      Yes, my blog has gone through a lot of changes in the past few months. I’ve really experienced a confidence boost in my writing and what I want to share.

      Foreplay is definitely the key. It does make people more relaxed and in turn, less focused on how their body looks.

      I’m doing well thanks. As usual, never enough time to catch up with everyone and stay on top of everything, but I try my best. I can only imagine what it’s like for you keeping up with your blog comments, so I’m grateful you’ve found time to message. Really hoping your health issues get better as soon as possible!

  2. questionsfromateenager says

    Laura – I love how you dare to talk about relevant issues a lot of people have been through /are going through and probably wouldn’t feel comfortable admitting. I think confidence in bed / in your own body is something almost everyone has to find and develop… The older I get, the more at home I feel in my own skin and thus, the more confident I am able to feel when being intimate with someone.

    I don’t know if it’s just me, but personally I find it harder to be confident in bed when with someone I am really into and could actually picture something serious with. It’s like the pressure is even more intense because you are hyper-aware of everything you do. And liking them as much as you do, you (of course) want to make a great impression and please the other person. With casual hookups I find it more easy to “let go” and stop thinking about… well, everything. As an overthinker myself (just like you) this can be challenging, so having those rare experiences where you can just completely be yourself and have fun without second-guessing everything you do is incredible.

    Great post, I really enjoyed reading your perspective on this. And again – I applaud you for sharing /talking about this!! xx

    • LauraJ says

      I actually had a small paragraph written about being nervous in bed when I’m with a guy I really like. I deleted it though because I’m not 100% sure. Most fear for me comes from acceptance, so once I’m confident with how someone feels, I can relax.

      But I totally get that it can be harder with someone you’re hoping to date for the long-term. It has much more meaning than sleeping with guy you probably won’t see again.

      Overthinking is the worst when it comes to sex. Usually happens when I have strong feelings. I’m glad you like the post. I think because I’ve slowly built up to these types of articles, I feel more confident. And it’s fun writing about something different. xx