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    • LauraJ says

      It’s super interesting how oxytocin affects us. And how it differs with men and women. I’m glad you liked the points I made 🙂

  1. Caitlyn says

    I actually don’t think catching feels is a problem with hookups. Even if you know they don’t reciprocate it that should be okay because you should have known going into a hookup that romantic feelings don’t really matter. It only matters if romantic feelings are not reciprocated in a romantic relationship. If they aren’t reciprocated in a hookup that’s better. It makes it easier for you. The worst is if they get feelings for you because then you feel guilty leading them on. But having some feelings is okay because it just means you’re being vulnerable. And I think being more vulnerable is good for everyone.

    • LauraJ says

      I agree – people should know going into a hookup that romantic feelings don’t really matter. But I imagine some people might begin to get comfortable and attach romantic feelings? Some times you have the best intentions but then your heart gets in the way. I would feel guilty if a person had feelings for me and I didn’t feel the same. I would have to end the situation.

  2. jennahaith says

    Great content! Excited to read more of your posts! I just started my own lifestyle blog and could use any and all advice you have for new bloggers! I published my first post yesterday just talking about me and my blog goals… check it out if u have time and leave a comment on feedback! Thank you so much!

    • LauraJ says

      Thank you Jenna. I guess my advice would be to connect with bloggers, take the time to show interest, market more than you post, and always research new blogging trends and what people are feeling. I’ll check out your blog 🙂

  3. questionsfromateenager says

    I think the number one thing I’ve learnt is to openly communicate when hooking up with someone. It’s important to set clear boundaries right from the start and make sure that your partner understands / respect them. In the past I have had a friends with benefits situation where we were on the same page… Until we weren’t. He found out I had been on a date and began acting possessively. In his mind it was not okay that I was sleeping with someone else (which I wasn’t by the way) yet at the same time I know for a fact that he also went out with other girls (which I never questioned, seeing as I thought we were both free to do what we pleased). The double standard strikes once again! How I hate it. Needless to say we ended our “friendship”.

    Thanks to that experience I am now very cautious of what I communicate to my casual partner. I think it’s important to check in with each other every once in a while and actively make sure you are on the same page. Feelings can be a mess and it can feel like they come out of nowhere. If I or my casual partner were to develop feelings, I would hope that we are in a place where we can openly discuss this and decide if it is beneficial to keep things going (which it almost always isn’t, unless both parties have feelings for each other)

    Great post as always, Laura!

    • LauraJ says

      I hate when people show double standards. It reminds me of a guy I briefly dated in my early twenties. He would sometimes vanish and act shady about his whereabouts, but would always assume I was out cheating if I dared ignore his call at night.

      Actively communicating is a big thing. I think some people don’t because they think with casual relationships, it doesn’t require any form of talk – as though that would make it into something more official.