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  1. stickysituation says

    This was such an interesting read. I think to me, there are definitely limits when it comes to insecurity. We all have some insecurities, it’s natural. But personally, as soon as that insecurity affects the relationship negatively… I’m out of there. Because I am a firm believer in the notion that it’s not your partner’s job to “fix” that insecurity. Insecurity is rooted within you, you are the source of it. That means that lessening that insecurity has to start with changing your own mindset. And that can only come from you. I think it is a lot of pressure on the other half of the relationship – as well as unfair – if you depend solely on them for validation. Yes, your partner should support you and a lot of the time can be a positive influence on regaining confidence. But at the end of the day, if YOU aren’t happy with yourself, then that is a you problem. Because to me, a relationship is about two individuals coming together and still being individuals, but choosing to be together. If you really aren’t happy with yourself when you’re by yourself, then I don’t necessarily think that that will bring a lot of good into the relationship. xx

    • LauraJ says

      100% to that notion… “it’s not your partner’s job to “fix” that insecurity”. And what a notion to learn. It took me a while to realise, a guy isn’t going to come along and magic away my problems.

      It is a lot of pressure on a relationship and it becomes very one-sided when one partner has deep insecurity. And insecurity can manifest in so many ways – it becomes problematic when it turns into jealousy, scrutiny, anger etc. xx