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  1. thelonelyauthorblog says

    Laura, I find that todays men in their 30s and 20s are confused by soceity’s changing standards. Sexy bad girls can be intimidating for these men. Can he handle her? Will his performance in bed compare to the other men he assumes she has had.
    Innocent is safe. Men tend to think that a lady who looks innocent has had limited experience and partners. These men like to hide behind the safety of not needing to compete with other men.

    • LauraJ says

      Exactly that – there is an assumption that a woman who dresses “innocently” has had limited experience, while a woman who shows more of her body is willing to sleep around.
      Some guys are intimidated and other guys like the control factor. It reminds me of my early twenties, when I was approached by dominating men who probably liked that I was quiet.

  2. LauraJ says

    Thank you Fiona! I hate being called cute and I also hate adorable. I can be shy as well, and it’s annoying that people can assume the entire personality of a shy person. As though you’re automatically submissive and dainty.

    I’ve written a lot on my blog about this, also on the stereotypes of an experienced women. I just think some guys can’t handle a woman who doesn’t fit a straight and simple stereotype. It’s like the perceptions placed on Audrey and Marilyn – a woman is elegant or sexy.

    I can believe you when you say it’s a rarity for guys to compliment you on your personality and book recommendations etc. A lot of guys think a woman wants to be complimented mostly on her looks, and that she’s aiming for a guy to tell her how physically appealing she is. But it’s the best feeling when a man can go beyond that and pick up on internal traits and the little things that others may not notice.

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