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  1. stickysituation says

    I love this article so, so much. Truly a think piece!

    Personally, I agree with you. I think your partner should be your friend – no doubt about it – but that they should never be stamped as your BEST friend. Because while the sentiment is “cute” I suppose, it adds a lot of pressure into the relationship.

    And, if I were the only source of happiness of my partner, I’m not sure I’d be able to cope. I am a firm believer in that your partner is not responsible for fixing you or your happiness.That a relationship should comprise of two individuals with their own lives and own friends coming together. It’s nice to have the same interests and the same hobbies yet in a relationship, at least for me, that’s definitely not a requirement.

    Maybe it’s an entirely different thing when a best friend turns into your partner? When you were best friends first and then developed feelings? That I have never experienced before but I could imagine that the expectations are larger in such a relationship.

    • LauraJ says

      I think it’s really natural when friendship turns to love. But it’s problematic when people try to turn a partner into this amazing best friend who they can always turn to and get everything they need from.

      I believe there are some people who are completely independent and able to focus on their goals and everything alone, but they still have an idea that a partner is going to elevate everything and make all aspects of life that much better. It’s a really unrealistic expectation to have.

      I believe that as well – a relationship should be two individuals together and not two people who mix their lives as one. Thank you for your perspective! xx

    • LauraJ says

      I agree – some mystery can help keep passion. Thanks for sharing your thoughts Serene xx