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  1. iza says

    my partner literally tresspassed someone’s property, then we had to walk to timmies and it was a bit of a walk, so he insisted that we go ask the people living on the same street, after we saw their bikes outside their house, we ring the door bell, then no one answers, i told my bf that we shouldnt take the bike, he took one and asked me to join him and said we’d be back in no time, its. not a big deal, then the people saw us taking the bike followed us, yelled at us, and asked us to give their ride back and if it happens again they’ll report us, i felt so embarrassed omg! and then we were walking back he decided to tresspass and i followed him, the women saw us and yelled at us, i am new to the area, so idk my way around or anything, and its his neighborhood so he knows! i know i shouldnt have followed him, but he says that he doesnt care what ppl think, i told him we have ro respect the societies and follow the rules. it doesnt matter what we think, everyone thinks differently, perceive differently, we should be more considerate.i have to explain common sense stuff to him. he is so embarrassing but idk whether i should break up with over this, i am so confused.

    • LauraJ says

      In relationships, it’s important to have the same values as your partner. Can you be happy with someone who doesn’t hold the same morals as you? From a personal perspective, I wouldn’t want to date someone who steals or trespasses. Not only does this make me question his character, it’s potentially putting you in a compromising situation where you can be reported with him. There is a difference between not caring about what people think, and respecting the law and peoples personal possessions.
      It is not your job to explain ‘common sense stuff’ to him. Really ask yourself if his beliefs match up to yours and if he seems like the type of person you think you are compatible with.

  2. crystalsandcurls says

    This is an interesting conundrum! I live in a kind if suspended reality over here in Aus where my lifelong friends and family are all back home, so all my friends here have known me and my partner together pretty much as long as they’ve known me! The only time I’ve ever really been embarrassed by my partner is when he gets super drunk and that’s just a “get in the damn uber” job haha xx

    • LauraJ says

      I’d rather be embarrassed by someone’s behaviour when they’re drunk instead of sober. Because at least then the alcohol forms an excuse. I’m sure I’ve embarrassed a partner before after drinking. xx

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