I love when me and my boyfriend plan ways to surprise each other. I’m not even a big ‘surprise person’, but I really appreciate when he makes an effort to do something different. Especially when it comes to the bedroom.
I’m sure I’m not the first person to tell you; you have to keep your sex life interesting and adventurous in long-term relationships to stop you from becoming bored. I believe it’s really about keeping things fun. Research shows for instance, that “playful couples are often happy couples” who experience more satisfaction and positive emotions.
Making your sex life fun could involve dressing up, role-play, or simply playing a game – something funny and steamy. My list of sexy gifts to surprise your partner with can bring back or further ignite the intimacy, playfulness and sexual satisfaction in your relationship.
Each item I’ve chosen has come from my go-to shop, Lovehoney. If you’re an avid reader of my blog, you’ll probably know that my ‘sex drawer’ has a lot of their items. So much so, I was given a Lovehoney voucher for my Secret Santa.
Gifts to surprise your partner with:
Sexy lingerie is a given, right. Every naughty Valentine’s wish list features some type of costume garment – or at least it should do! I rarely use to wear sexy lingerie because I didn’t have the confidence to imagine myself looking good in it. But I now know, you’re more-likely to feel sexy if you look the part.
Putting on a bright red piece like this red floral lace babydoll set, is a sure way to set temperatures racing. Now, if you’re someone who hasn’t really shopped for this type of sexy lingerie before or if you feel slightly uncomfortable about showing so much skin, a babydoll is a great place to start.
This one in particular is very flattering. It has a plunging neckline that highlights your cleavage with a silky ribbon under the bust that nips you in. I feel SO GOOD whenever I put this on. Like I look at my body and start picking out the things I love, rather than going straight to criticism. The actual size is ideal for me – it covers your stomach but skims your thighs and butt. Plus, it is a one-size fits all with adjustable straps (including the hot pair of thongs that comes with it).
I’m usually cautious around one-size fits all clothing because I’ve had experiences in the past where it simply hasn’t fit. Lovehoney seem to have perfected the sizing though; I’ve read reviews online from people of different height and size who each say they’re happy. The adjustable straps are hugely beneficial as the outfit won’t become too tight or snug.
Cuffs and Eye Mask
Through my Instagram polls, I’ve found that a lot of couples already have blindfolds and handcuffs. I think they’re the easiest items to experiment with – they were the first two pieces I bought with Lovehoney.
So, in terms of gifts to surprise your partner with, they’re not necessarily the most exhilarating. However, they’re a match made in heaven when paired with lingerie – and they sure turn up the fun.
With the matching pair I’m wearing, I really like how different they look compared to standard blindfolds and handcuffs. The lace detail looks elegant and glamorous. My partner especially enjoyed me wearing them – we both felt the detail created a hot surprise.
Bondage Feather Tickler
A feather tickler is ideal for stepping into the world of beginner BDSM. If chains and whips don’t feel like your thing, or if you want to try something different, I recommend you give it a try.
Although soft and small, the sensation is anything but mild. Feathers awaken the nerve endings for full body arousal and titillating sensory play. They are a sure way of adding more play to your sex life. Any couple can get creative using one – you don’t have to be some expert or have a particular technique to utilise. I enjoy the feel of the feathers against my skin and because of the softness, I also feel confident dominating with one.
The Fifty Shades of Grey tickler I have is vegan-friendly and comes with a satin bag for discreet storage.
Steamy, fun Board Game
I enjoy a good game – cards, charades, quizzes, board games – I’ll happy play them all and win (well, sometimes).
But a round of Monopoly or Connect 4, although fun, doesn’t quite get the foreplay rolling. That’s why I like playing this After Dark Board Game. For those evenings where you’re staying in and doing Netflix and chill, playing this type of game mixes your night up. It helps to break away from standard routine.
I actually surprised my partner with this, but neither of us had any idea what to expect. We both ended up learning some interesting facts about each other. The game has easy-to-follow instructions – you roll the dice and work your way around the board. Along the way, you come across different cards such as Kinky Confessions and Talk Dirty, as well as different activities like acting and drawing.
As the game has so many cards, you can have fun playing multiple times (preferably with a glass of wine).
Kama Sutra Playing Cards
On the subject of games, who’s up for a round of cards? Last year, I bought these as something fun to take on a couple’s weekend away.
Since blogging about sex, I’ve realised most of us are continually trying to find new sexual positions. Having 52 different positions demonstrated on cards is a fun way to go about this research. It’s certainly more erotic than scrolling through search engines.
As part of my sexy gifts to surprise your partner with, you can get creative with how you choose to present this present. Maybe you wrap a bow around the cards, or you hide different ones around the house for your partner to stumble upon – just make sure you remember your hiding places!
An additional sexy gift to consider:
Have you ever used flavoured lube? If you haven’t, I suggest adding this item to your gift. I’m a big fan of Lovehoney’s range because it’s not sticky, the formula works well and the flavours themselves are delicious without being too rich.
Intensify oral sex and nipple play by tantalising your taste buds with a dessert flavour. Out of the range, my personal favourites are Strawberry and Gingerbread, but there are a host of flavours to try such as Cherry and Passionfruit.
Whether you’re shopping for naughty Valentine’s gifts, birthday treats or simply a weekend of intimate fun, you cannot go wrong with shopping these sexy gifts to surprise your partner with from Lovehoney. Make 2022 the year you add playful pleasure to your relationship.