Great sex starts before foreplay. Before you begin to kiss, touch and initiate. It starts with getting ourselves in the mood mentally so we can feel our most sexual. This wishlist includes self-care products and sex-based items to help maximise your pleasure.
Why not rely on sex toys alone?
I completely advocate using sex toys, props and books, etc., to spice things up in the bedroom (as you’ll see from this list). However, it can be difficult for many of us to go from a full day of work, cooking dinner, looking after kids and finishing household chores, to suddenly being turned on enough to enjoy sex in the evening.
It helps to spend time focusing on grooming beforehand (whatever time you can muster) so we feel great about ourselves and our bodies. If you’re like me, smooth skin, soft lips and lacy lingerie that feels comfortable all help to boost self-confidence.
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£10 and under
Luxury Blindfolds
You can opt for your basic satin blindfolds, but if you want to switch up your look or buy your partner something a bit fancier, you can’t go wrong with faux fur lined.
Another option is to use lace and silk. As part of my costume, I have a gorgeous red lace eye mask which feels very luxurious. The only issue is the eye mask can slip off, so you need to tie it quite tight or potentially ask your partner for help.
Flavoured Lip Balm
Kissable, smooth lips that have a hint of cherry, yes, please!
Sex Positions Book
Reinvigorate your sex life with this handy guide. You can shop three different guides for women and men, men who love men and women who love women.
Body Scrub
A stocking filler that I greatly appreciate every year.
Massage Oil
A perfect way to unwind after a busy day. This one is my new favourite.
Trio of Flavoured Lube
Up your taste sense with this trio of flavoured lube. (Or just opt for the cherry flavour because that one is the best).
£20 – £50
Micro Magic Wand Vibrator
Travel-friendly, easy to grip and purposely designed to be extra flexible, this vibrating wand packs a lot of power with three speed options at a fantastic price.
Tracey Cox Rabbit Clitoral Vibrator
Put a hop back in your sex life with this petite rabbit vibrator – perfect for beginners.
Arouse Scent Massage Candle
A delicious, flavoured candle that turns into a warm massage oil – talk about buy one get one free!
Bondage sex game
A perfect excuse to turn off Netflix and get creative with this beginner bondage game where you can experiment with BDSM Together.
Alternatively, my boyfriend and I have this After Dark Board Game – a mixture of intimate questions, drawing and performing particular acts.
Sexy Lingerie
Why not dress up and surprise your partner with one of these outfits:
French Maid Costume: Shop UK | Shop USA
Red Wine Babydoll Set: Shop UK | Shop USA
Hair Mist
What can be more irresistible than silky hair that smells of luxury fragrance? This Givenchy hair mist is a great way to use scent to get you in the mood.
Bullet Vibrating Cock Ring Set
A remote control bullet vibrator with a set of cock rings for some seriously intense foreplay.
Luxury items
Sex Position Enhancer Chair
You may need a good storage cupboard to hide this from guests, but this chair makes sexual positions much more easier – leaving you to experiment in a whole new way.
Tria Hair Removal Laser 4X
I was lucky enough to test and review this laser for my blog – and I still so grateful many months later. If you would love permanently smooth skin but do not fancy investing in laser hair removal, this device offers an at-home, cheaper alternative.
Clinically proven and cordless, you can read my full review including whether it is suitable for your skin tone.
hi I understand all these fun things as a must doo practice to keep long relationships blossoming,but do tell me after 24years of marriage how do you keep the equal balance of lebido up if 1 drops off completely help
Hi Justin, a loss of libido could be due to many reasons such as hormone changes, medication, a decline in emotional connection and stress. Can you pinpoint when your partner’s libido began to decline? Do you feel comfortable talking about your feelings and communicating about sex with them? It’s important to bring up the issue and see if they’re willing to discuss the decline.